Counselling FAQ

Posted by on May 2, 2014 in Counselling, FAQ | 0 comments

If you have any more questions feel free to write to us in the comments section of this counselling FAQ.  The videos (with transcript) answer some of the most common questions that I get about my approach to counselling and how it works.
Here are the questions for our counselling FAQ:

1. What do you mean when you say you practice Rapid Results Counselling and Therapy?

Rapid results counselling and therapy is all about giving people in Victoria BC rapid results as quickly as possible. Although this sounds pretty straight forward, there are a whole lot of things behind it. I am trained in many different modes and approaches to counselling. This allows me to draw upon all those different tools in my tool box to help you. Because of the variety of my tools I am able to help you more quickly than I could otherwise. Ultimately leading to rapid and permanent healing.

Note: phone consultation is also one of my counselling services if you are located outside of Victoria. Contact me for more info.


2. Are there results and how long do they last?

My whole focus is about giving people results from the very beginning, giving you tools to use for your entire life. There are results for your emotional, spiritual, and psychological health. When I ask my clients, they always say that they have tools and results immediately. Ultimately the point of my rapid results therapy is to help you achieve permanent results by learning new tools to help in your specific situation. Also, results can be expanded upon on an ongoing basis.


3. Does Rapid Results work really work?

Rapid results therapy really does work. Check the testimonials for proof of this! Look at some of the different options: some types of therapy go on for years! And that’s deemed acceptable. Part of my practice is to help you live happier as rapidly as possible. This means using custom counselling tools for your specific needs. Using the right resources we can create results much more quickly than some counsellors offer.

One of the major keys for your rapid return to psychological wellbeing is the use of many different techniques to offer complete counselling.


4. Can I really change how I feel and think?

People can change how they feel and think in many different ways. Think about different times and even phases in your life and how much you have changed. Even depression, grief, and separation are forms of change.  Some things remain constant; some thing change without our control, while other changes we can control. Employing my expertise and experience we can work together to change thought patterns, beliefs, and emotions. Changing our thoughts and beliefs can be a very powerful tool in living a more enriching life.

That’s true whether you are in need of grief counselling, parental counselling, family counselling, marriage counsellingexecutive coaching, etc.


5. Do I lose my control or freedom during therapy?

This question of control and freedom is an interesting one. It’s especially related to hypnotherapy, but also counselling in general. The interesting thing is that people actually gain more freedom and control through counselling and hypnotherapy. That’s because we are working together to equip you for your life, and to prepare you for happiness. Because of the breadth of the tools that I have at my disposal we create an expansive custom plan for your psychological, emotional, and spiritual health and wellbeing.

In essence you receive training, tools, and guidance to help you move towards happiness and peace.


6. Does Hypnotherapy control my mind and make do “weird things” I would never do?

This question is more specifically about hypnotherapy. As you know, we have a large number of different methods and modes of counselling and therapy at our disposal. Hypnotherapy is one of the clinical approaches. Therapy through hypnosis is not about doing silly things that you don’t plan on doing when you come here. Instead of losing control through hypnosis, you will gain more control. You’ll gain more freedom through greater insight into your processing and communication styles. Hypnotherapy helps you access the core beliefs and belief systems that are inhibiting you from achieving what you want to achieve.


7. What do you do if I can’t be hypnotized?

People have the idea about hypnosis that it is foreign or unnatural to us. The reality is that it is actually a natural state of mind. Every individual goes into multiple states of trance at various times during the day. For example when you start reading a book, and get lost in it or get mesmerized by the TV. The moments before you go to sleep are also a state of hypnotic trance. This means that of course you can be hypnotized, because you already have been; we just need to achieve relaxation and focus.


8. How do I change my loved ones?

This is another interesting question. Often people want to get others in their lives to change. Obviously this is not usually going to work very well! That’s especially the case if they don’t want to change themselves. We are in charge of ourselves, and have the power to make important choices about how we will work to change and grow. That does not mean that change is easy. But it is possible. A good counsellor helps you work through stages of recovery and healing.  When we change ourselves, others often start to change around us. This sets an example to help others in their change and in their own lives.

Ultimately, we cannot force someone else to change; that’s true even of threats, ultimatums, and bribes.  Change requires conscious choice from the agent of that choice.


9. Why should I see a professional instead of just talking to my friends and loved ones?

This is an interesting and delicate question. Friends and family can be very helpful, in a lot of different ways. Often they are not as helpful as we want them to be. Oftentimes there are belief structures and thought structures that carry over into their opinions. The goal of a counsellor is to provide a professional perspective and professional help for your mental health. Friends and family can only do so much, and they tend to bring a biased perspective.

As I’m sure you have experienced family and friends can actually be detrimental to helping you get the results that you need for a better life! My goal is to use my professional tool box to work towards your rapid attainment of joy and mental health.


10. What are some advantages of coming to see you instead of just talking with my friends and loved ones?

This question is a caveat from our last one. I felt that it was important to add some more clarity. Although friends are very important in our lives, sometimes our problems are beyond where they can help. Would you ask your friend to perform brain surgery? That doesn’t sound like a good idea to me either. With counselling the same principle applies. Furthermore, sometimes our friends need a break from being dumped on. This is because ‘counselling’ with them often takes on the form of complaining. Alternatively, professional counselling focuses on results and on actually feeling better.

For your mental health and wellbeing, you deserve help from a professional. Friends and family simply cannot offer the same breadth and depth of help that a professional Victoria counsellor can! That is unless they are trained counsellors themselves. It’s a matter of having the tools to help you recover quickly. I hope this resonates with you.